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Your Friend and Your Ex

4 Nov

By CANDACE ROBERTS

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How would you feel if one of your friends began to date your ex? Here’s my theory on it. I don’t understand why anyone would want to have their friend’s sloppy seconds. Doesn’t it cross your mind the fact that these two people were once intimate with each other. Now if I was married or even dating and one of my friends chose to date one of my ex’s, I probably wouldn’t care. I have already moved on! Plus, I either already have or am awaiting someone better. I feel like it would bother the friend more than me, but some people just don’t care. Now if its someone I just broke up with a few days ago, then I would be upset. That means the two had to already have been messing around during the relationship.

Now when it comes to the subject of a friend stealing your man. Of course anyone would be furious. I definitely wouldn’t want anything to do with either person again. Although, there is no need to seek revenge. If the friend is not smart enough to know that that person will leave or cheat on them too, then hey they deserve whats coming to them. Karma is really something, isn’t it?

What I don’t understand about “side chicks” is that why would you want someone else man? Some “side chicks” don’t want commitment and like the idea of him just coming by as needed. However, most end up falling head over heels and want that person all to themselves. Again, if a man or woman is willing to cheat on or leave their spouse for you, what makes you think that he wouldn’t do the same to you in return?! It’s not always that the wife or husband isn’t doing their job at home. Some men just can’t keep their pants on and some women can’t keep their legs closed. Either way, I would rather have a man of my own and not borrow or steal someone from somebody else.

When a friend accuses you of wanting their spouse, it usually is because your friend is insecure or their intuition is telling them something. In reality, their spouse may not even be your type and you’re being falsely accused.

Dating your friend’s ex can be a recipe for disaster. There are so many fish in the sea. Just go get your own man/woman to avoid hurting a friend and to miss out on any bad Karma!

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Living Your Own Life!

27 Sep

Happiness

It seems like there is always someone who means well, but comes across as trying to run our lives. It is one thing to give out advice and another to tell someone what you think they should do and how they should do it. Often times it is family who tries to control our every move. We have to just step back and realize that we are adults and capable of making our own decisions. You don’t always have to consult with someone before making a decision. What others tell you might be best for them, but may not work out well with you. If we always do what others want us to do, we can never truly be happy because we are not living our own lives. Some people need to feel like they have to control others. There will be times when we have to discard people from our lives or simply distance ourselves from some people if only for a little while. Whatever decision you make, if it is a mistake, let it be your mistake and not a mistake you made listening to someone else. Sometimes its best to not argue with people and just know that you can do whatever you want. No sense in arguing and getting yourself upset. At the end of the day they will still be trying to tell you how to live your life and you have to know that you don’t always have to take the advice of others. It’s rather funny when an adult tells another adult what they are not allowed to do. Sure we have to respect our parents and elders. Yet, again sometimes we have to distance ourselves if they don’t understand that you are an adult. No matter how many times you tell someone how you want to do something, sometimes they never stop to listen because they are so anxious to tell you how they think it should be. The best thing to do is not consult with them when making a decision and when they feel the need to tell you what to do, just hear them out or tell them you don’t agree! However you choose to handle it, just make sure you are living your life for you and no one else!

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